'My parents did the best they could': A Wholesome Discussion About Hard Realities Women Have Come to Accept

Author image for Eleonora Bader
Eleonora Bader
Feb 12, 2024 9:00 AM EST

Nobody promises you that life is easy. What goes up must come down, and vice versa. I wish that I could say that life will blossom in a linear fashion, but unfortunately, it just doesn't work that way. Everyone is always on about loving yourself these days, and even though I've resisted that notion for quite a while, I think I've finally come to accept that life gets pretty awesome when you enjoy your own company. When you look in the mirror and smile at what you see. When you stand up for yourself because you know you deserve better.

Today I was scrolling through r/askwomen, and I came across this emotional thread. After reading through all the comments left by women from all around, women who are just like me, in so many ways, and yet also so different, in many others… It really touched my heart. Hopefully, it will touch yours, too.

And if by any chance you enjoy Lord of the Rings, here are two towers full of LOTR memes for you to scroll through.

Add as a preferred
source on Google
Advertisement
  • 01
    What's something that was really hard for you to accept but you finally did?
    via Canva
  • 02
    What's something that was really hard for you to accept but you finally did?
    via u/workdncsheets
  • 03
    YourLunarPrism - 2 days ago Accepting the fact that not everyone will like me was very difficult, but I came to the conclusion that this is normal and this is part of life. Reply Share 1.9k
    via u/YourLunarPrism
  • 04
    seared scallops 2 days ago My parents did the best they could. Reply Share 1.4k
    via u/searedscallops
  • 05
    tmacarthur13 - 2 days ago That not everyone has good intentions. I spent alot of my life thinking that deep down everyone is a good person, they just make mistakes. As I got older and wiser I had to accept that there are some really horrible-to-the-core people in the world. I think I was mostly just naive. 1.3k Reply Share
    via u/tmacarthur13
  • 06
    FiendishCurry 2 days ago I will always put more into friendships than I will ever get in return. Reply Share 759
    via u/FiendishCurry
  • 07
    me Repulsive-Egg6981 2 days ago my value as a person is not dependent on my physical attractiveness. still struggle with this one 677 Reply Share
    via u/Repulsive-Egg6981
  • 08
    Irritated Mango - 2 days ago You could do everything right in a situation and things may still not work out the way you want them to. 584 Reply Share
    via u/IrritatedMango
  • 09
    thatlocalunicorn - 2 days ago It isn't everyone's natural inclination to be a good person, or do the "right" thing. I always liked to give people the benefit of the doubt, find the good in everyone type of thing. However, I've come to realize that kind of thinking was detrimental to me; I'd ignore red flags trying to find the good in someone and then I'd end up with the short end of the deal. Some people are completely okay with being a subpar person, or all take and no give, and I've accepted t
    via u/thatlocalunicorn
  • 10
    drainbead78- 2 days ago I have no idea what I'm doing most of the time. Neither does anyone else. Reply Share 221
    via u/drainbead78
  • 11
    SlammingMomma - 2 days ago That I could have done whatever I wanted and should have believed in myself. Reply Share 170
    via u/SlammingMomma
  • 12
    mostlydrunkfromwine 2 days ago that I won't ever get any love, kindness or any kind of affection from my mother. I always tried to look for something that simply isn't there. And even though I've accepted it, deep down I still have that hope that as long as she's still alive, maybe one day I'll get the closure I need from her. Reply Share 159
    via u/mostlydrunkfromwine
  • 13
    jazmine_likea_flower 2 days ago. edited 2 days ago Life isn't fair. Being a good person isn't a guarantee for a good life nor the reverse.... Injustice of any kind k 'Is me and makes me uncomfortable bc there isn't a rhyme or reason for everything.... I can't prevent that either 138 ↓ Reply Share
    via u/jazmine_likea_flower
  • 14
    wakeup_maggie_58 · 2 days ago That in order to really love who I am, I need to get comfortable with being completely alone (physically and emotionally). Not who I am as an athlete, teacher, friend, or roommate, etc.; but who I am at my core without external influence. 99 ↓ Reply Share
    via u/wakeup_maggie_58
  • 15
    joliebetty 2 days ago I don't need to be perfect or have it all together all the time to be loved. Intellectually I knew this, but I didn't believe it. I'm not all the way there, but getting there. 92 Reply Share
    via u/joliebetty
  • 16
    Sofakinghot69 · 2 days ago That taking everything as a personal attack will make you forever lonely and anxious. I really had to unlearn that whole "the way you take it is the way they meant it" mentality that was essential to me surviving growing up with my Mother. It's been a GAME CHANGER to not feel like I have to second guess ANYTHING. Just breath and live life.
    via u/Sofakinghot69
  • 17
    _lyn 2 days ago Nobody's coming to save you Reply Share 74 Hot_messed 1 day ago Sometimes we have to save ourselves Reply Share 27
    via u/_lyn, u/Hot_messed
  • 18
    Cursedseductress 2 days ago What other people think of me is neither my business nor my problem. It's about them. 65 Reply Share
    via u/Cursedseductress
  • 19
    dndunlessurgent - 2 days ago . People can only change if they're willing to change and nothing you can do or say will make it go any faster. 51 ↓ Reply Share
    via u/dndunlessurgent
  • 20
    sadsledgemain. 2 days ago Ot That I'll always be ugly, always will be at a disadvantage compared to average or beautiful people, and never will be able to do or experience certain things in life. I'll always mourn it and find it unfair, but that's just how life is. I finally realised I can't do anything about it, so it's better to just live the best I can that the hand I was dealt allows me to.
    via u/sadsledgemain
  • 21
    Zealiida 2 days ago Lot of people are selfish. Thinking only about themselves. In order for avoid them to use you, you have to know to prioritize yourself and your needs. 35 Reply Share
    via u/Zealiida
  • 22
    alivebutawkward - 2 days ago Short hair, single, loves wearing sweats and jeans will always make ppl think I am a lesbian. 35 Reply Share
    via u/alivebutawkward
  • 23
    eatinsourpunchstraws 2 days ago All the work I put into being attractive to the majority of man was a waste because majority of the men suck. The time in my life, where I stopped, appealing to the common male gaze was where I met better men and overall better people. ↑ 35 35 Reply Share
    via u/eatinsourpunchstraws
  • 24
    cosima_stars 2 days ago that i deserved better than my boyfriend who treated me like sl., and that i actually could find happiness again Reply Share 30
    via u/cosima_stars

Tags

reddit stories wholesome random act of kindness heart life journey acceptance heartwarming optimism relationships parenting ask women good day realities women smile
Scroll Down For The Next Article